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c r i n g e

recently an acquaintance and i were “catching up” — you know, the usual. she was asking about my life, work, dating…which segued abruptly to this comment (and i’m not sure how):

“i thought you only dated white guys!”

sadly, i’ve heard this before and it chaps my hide.

let’s think of the implications. what does it assert about who i am? my identity? and all the racial, political, sexual, gender baggage that comes with being jennifer yin? not only does this statement simplify the tangled complications of attraction and love, but it distills them down to a matter of racial preference. it also suggests a betrayal or affront to my own “brothers.”

if you can make me: feel good about myself, laugh like a maniacal hyena, hot and bothered, and truly get me, and vice versa, then i don’t care what color you are. DUH.

end rant here.

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11 Responses to “c r i n g e”

  1. Fran Says:
    July 31st, 2008 at 12:07 pm

    people say the stupidest things

  2. eric Says:
    July 31st, 2008 at 4:58 pm

    you’re a race traitor

  3. Andrea Says:
    July 31st, 2008 at 5:02 pm

    Agh. I know how you feel.

  4. Andrew Says:
    July 31st, 2008 at 10:50 pm

    Whenever I used to visit Anthony, I found Jenn staring from across the room at my “big round eyes”. That and she tries to get me to dress up as an English colonizer.

  5. Tim S says Says:
    August 1st, 2008 at 12:07 am

    But Jenn, one really does have to wonder about this Ted Bundy fellow….I mean, he was white wasn’t he?

  6. jenn Says:
    August 1st, 2008 at 4:53 pm

    you guys are funny. i like how the ladies are empathetic and the guys just dish it on, expose the fact that i have a burning fetish for white men

  7. Chardonnay Says:
    August 4th, 2008 at 9:02 am

    Really?

    I honestly thought you were trying to fill a punch card. Date 10 white guys then become white for free – just like Subway.

  8. nico Says:
    August 4th, 2008 at 8:04 pm

    yeah I get that all the time. or, I’m the first white girl guys date after only asian girls, like a racial half-way house.

  9. Mike Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 1:36 pm

    no dating. must keep both feet on the ground at all times. keep your door open for me to check.

    see you at church

  10. christina Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 2:15 pm

    You know what? i get that too!

    sometimes it’s more like “do you only like white guys?”

    sad.

  11. mich Says:
    August 13th, 2008 at 12:41 am

    just try and leave some vanilla for the rest of us, will you?

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